Empowering Teenagers: The Importance of Decision-Making and Independence

Written by Itim

M6 at Benchamaracharungsarit School, Chachoengsao

The teenage years are a period of life during which everyone experiences various changes, including physical and mental transformations. Decision-making becomes an inevitable aspect of being a teenager, as many of them have the potential to shape their lives. Some adults guide teens in the direction they want them to take by influencing their decision-making. However, I believe it is crucial to allow teenagers to make their own decisions, as they will learn from their experiences.

Granting teenagers the opportunity to make decisions can enhance their self-esteem and confidence. They must learn responsibility through their own choices, taking ownership of both anticipated and unforeseen consequences. If adults are heavily involved in their decisions, it might limit the teenagers' chances to gain knowledge and skills from their own experiences. For instance, parents might compel their children to join sports courses solely because they believe it will be beneficial for their health.

Dependent youngsters can become indecisive and anxious, as they feel pressured to meet their parents' expectations. Teenagers need the flexibility to explore their passions and values. Conversely, decisions made by parents or other adults might stem from their own preferences and beliefs, hindering children from developing their own identity. Recognizing that mistakes are a part of learning, parents should avoid being overly strict.

While parents have more life experience than teenagers, guidance and advice from adults are essential for teens to make wise decisions. Parents should play the role of mentors, sharing their experiences and offering advice. Open dialogue with parents allows children to express their concerns and aspirations, helping them set realistic goals. Thus, parents and children should collaborate in discussing the pros and cons before reaching decisions.

Even when parents want the best for their children, they should respect their autonomy in decision-making. Striking a balance between offering guidance and granting independence, parents should encourage their children's passions and skills. When children are involved in making decisions, it fosters a stronger parent-child connection, a sense of accountability, and personal growth.